We all want to be successful in life, but what do we really mean by “success” and what is it we are really wanting? For much of our country’s history being successful has meant financial wealth, having a “good” job, and maybe even becoming rich and famous. However, how many rich people have you heard
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Why Do Breakups Hurt So Much? A Survival Guide for the Experience of Love Lost
I can remember my first big breakup. It was gut-wrenchingly painful. I was twenty-two years old and very much in love. We had been together for nearly five years, which at that age felt like a lifetime. My mother had become very ill a few years prior and she was no longer able to parent. The
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The Drive for Romantic Love: Understanding the Neurobiology Behind Why We Fall in Love & Who We Fall in Love With
To begin, if you would please take a minute to think back to the moment you met the last person you truly fell in love with. Close your eyes and notice how vivid you can make the memory. Do you remember exactly how their face looked or the way they smelled? Chances are some pretty clear details
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Solitude and Empathy: Two Casualties of The Digital Age
If you are the proud owner of a smartphone or tablet you may have heard rumors and rumblings about the supposed “dangers” of overindulging. You might have also noticed some changes in your behavior and those around you over the last 10 years. For example, social gatherings where everyone is on their phone, as well
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Autonomy or Fear of Dependence? A Closer Look at the Modern Relationship
In my practice as a psychotherapist I have noticed that many people seem unclear on the difference between codependence and interdependence in relationship. I hear a lot of couples talking about the importance of remaining independent and autonomous in their relationship. The ideal represented here is that it’s healthy to be autonomous instead of becoming
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Why Are We Still Fighting? Two Invaluable Keys to Overcoming Conflict in Relationship
Relationships Are Tough If you are a human being (which is quite likely if you are reading this), then chances are that at some point you have struggled in an intimate relationship. You may have asked yourself questions like, “Why doesn’t he/she listen to me?” and “Why don’t I feel loved, appreciated, or acknowledged the
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Marriage and Couples Counseling
Taking an Honest Look at Your Relationship Are you are feeling emotionally drained from frequent conflict? Are you finding that even the smallest issues easily turn into major arguments? Are you avoiding interacting with your partner entirely because you feel more resentment than love? Perhaps you and your partner have grown so distant that you