Today it is generally understood that body language is a big part of how we communicate and therefore plays a significant role in how we are perceived by others. According to the research of Albert Mahrebian, communication is 55% body language, with an additional 38% attributed to tone of voice, totalling a whopping 93% as non-verbal. This leaves
Technology
Your Brain is Changing While You Read This: The Impacts of Reading Online and How to Develop a Balanced Bi-Literate Brain
It might sound cliché to say that everyday Americans are spending more time online, however the truth of this statement continues to increasingly shape our culture. Just in the past few years everyday activities like banking, socializing, shopping, and reading, have exploded in popularity in the digital world. The rule of thumb seems to be
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Self-Compassion
What’s Wrong With My New Year’s Resolutions? Why Most Resolutions Fail and How to Create Effective Ones that Change Your Life
It’s a New Year. For some, the rolling over of the calendar year means very little, and for others the New Year is an opportunity for a fresh start, a chance to do some course correction and to achieve some goals that may have fallen by the wayside. However, there seems to be a problem.
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Mindfulness
From Mindless to Mindful: Cultivating Mindfulness Without Meditation
These days people are increasingly becoming aware of mindfulness and its myriad benefits. You may have heard about it from a professor, a therapist, a doctor, or even from Fox News. From addiction recovery, marriage satisfaction, to physical and mental health, mindfulness is pretty much good for everything. However, what most people are not aware of is
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Family
So, You Think You’re So Enlightened? 6 Simple Ways to Prepare for the Holidays and Become an Agent of Change in Your Family System
Holiday season is upon us, which for most of us means a lot more time spent with family than usual. Everyone’s family is different and each member of a family system has a different take on what it’s like, however an almost universal experience people have with their family is the uncanny ability they have
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Wellness & Happiness
Living in Congruence: When the Inside and the Outside Become One
I was first introduced to the idea of congruence while in graduate school for counseling psychology. Simply put, in a psychological context, congruence means that what you show on the outside—words, actions, body language, etc.—matches what is on the inside—thoughts, feelings, body sensations, etc. If what is on the outside does not reflect what is
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Mindfulness
Your Brain on Meditation: A Breakthrough in the Science of Mindfulness
By now you’ve likely heard at least some about how mindfulness meditation is good for you. Thanks to prolific authors like Pema Chödrön and researchers like Jon Kabat-Zinn and his Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction course (MBSR), mindfulness is in the midst of going mainstream. By all accounts this is a positive shift in our culture. However, knowing
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Relationships
Solitude and Empathy: Two Casualties of The Digital Age
If you are the proud owner of a smartphone or tablet you may have heard rumors and rumblings about the supposed “dangers” of overindulging. You might have also noticed some changes in your behavior and those around you over the last 10 years. For example, social gatherings where everyone is on their phone, as well
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Wellness & Happiness
Permeability: Learning to let in Life’s Goodness
For me, there is just something about stepping out into a bright blue fall day and taking a deep breath of cool crisp air deep into my lungs. Simply hearing dry leaves rustling in the breeze and feeling the distinctly cool fall air on my skin has the power to completely shift my state of
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Relationships
Autonomy or Fear of Dependence? A Closer Look at the Modern Relationship
In my practice as a psychotherapist I have noticed that many people seem unclear on the difference between codependence and interdependence in relationship. I hear a lot of couples talking about the importance of remaining independent and autonomous in their relationship. The ideal represented here is that it’s healthy to be autonomous instead of becoming